The Contentions of the Contentious
Rain drops on the roof is my favorite sound ever - second only to my husband's voice. There's something about that pitter-patter than soothes me completely.
A foolish son is the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping. Proverbs 19:13
But when that pitter-patter of comfort becomes the constant annoyance of a woman's voice, the Lord tells us that we've crossed the line. While the rain drops relax and calm the soul, picture our words more like a torrential downpour on a leaky roof. There's nowhere to hide from the droppings, as they're irritating and non-stop. Eventually the dam will burst and our husbands run for cover.
Is this how you want your husband and others to see you? We need to be conscious of our contentious-ness.
It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman. Proverbs 21:19
So what would it take for people to think they'd rather live in the middle of nowhere with no shelter than stay in the same room with you? Those would have to be some pretty harsh words, continuous and sharp. Have you spoken any words like that lately? Some days we need to listen to the things we say from the ears of others.
A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike. Proverbs 27:15Contentious is defined as given to angry debate, quarrelsome and apt to provoke. Imagine living in a world with a woman whose angry words were as continuous as rain drops on a stormy day. Would you be willing to be around someone who was constantly picking at you, scolding and provoking you to anger with just her words?
Our husbands and those around us don't deserve to be in that situation either. Being in the presence of a Christian woman should be a refuge and a sanctuary, not a concern over the words she'll say.
If God repeats a common theme this many times, it must be vitally important. Let's take this repetition as a warning to watch the words that flow out of our mouths. It may mean the difference between pleasant conversation and talking to yourself.